Will I like it? Will he/she/they like it? Can I still get pregnant? Is it safe?
So.many.questions. We’ve all wondered at one point or another, haven’t we…?!
Medically, there is no reason not to enjoy sex or a bit of frisky fun whilst on your period, but for some it’s a flat-out no-go zone (also, we'd like to acknowledge here that for endometriosis warriors, or those who may suffer from conditions such as vaginismus, sex might be super uncomfortable and so we'd recommend seeking professional advice/support). Whatever your preference, here are a few things to consider:
Sex can help with period discomfort
Getting frisky whilst on your period releases endorphins and oxytocin (often dubbed ‘the love hormone’) in our bodies which can improve our mood, reduce the perception of pain and make us feel all warm and fuzzy and connected to our partner. Orgasms are also said to relieve period pain (‘cos we needed another excuse?!).
You might (really) dig it
Whilst sex is the last thing on some people’s minds during their period, others can’t think of anything but. Arousal during menstruation for a lot of peeps on their period can be heightened, particularly due to increasing levels of estrogen and testosterone on around day 3. Also, don’t assume that your partner won’t be into it – they might really dig it, too! Doesn’t hurt to ask…
Look, there’s no denying that’s it’s going to get a lil’ messy. You can always wash the sheets afterwards or lay a towel down before-hand or better yet, do it in the shower and wash away any 'evidence'!. If you notice dark clumps or a heavier period soon after intercourse, don’t stress; it’s just your uterine lining shedding and it’s totally normal (though if you’re worried, see your Doc).
When we menstruate, our cervix is more open than usual and we’re actually shedding the inner lining of our uterus and this means that it becomes a bit like an open wound, making us more susceptible to infections – but it works both ways; not only are we more prone, but we can also more easily infect others, too. STDs like HIV and Hepatitis are more easily transmitted through contact with infected blood and so you may infect your partner if you’re not careful. The best way to minimise risk of infections and STDs is to use protection, like a condom, a dental dam, or even latex gloves (depending, of course, on the kind of sex/intimacy you’re having). ALSO, be sure to thoroughly wash any sex toys with soap and warm water in between sessions.
You can still get pregnant
Although unlikely during this phase of your cycle, it’s not impossible with male/female intercourse! Sperm can live inside you for 3 – 5 days after sex and so if you happen to ovulate during that time, you may get pregnant. If you’re not keen to add to the clan just yet, use protection.
There’s ways, and there’s ways
If you’re not into full-blown intercourse whilst on your period, or if you're not up for any kind of genital touching or stimulation, there are still other ways to be intimate and have some pleasurable fun with your partner (and even reach orgasm!). Time to get creative, Moxette (and that goes for your partner, too 😉). Alternatively, you can always go it solo 🤗
Both periods and sex are natural, Moxette, and there’s no real reason (personal medical issues aside) why one should prevent you from experiencing the other. Whatever you do, or anyone else does, just always make sure it's a hard 'YES' and it's consensual! Your body, your period, your choice!
PS – If you are going to have intercourse whilst on your period, please remember to take your tampon or menstrual cup OUT before getting jiggy…